Friendspiration: Everything Happens for a Reason

I used to never live in the moment. See, I was always too concerned about what lie ahead and what I should be doing in order for my life to pan out just how I had planned it out in my head. When life didn’t develop the way I meticulously planned, I would get so down on myself and dwell on the WHY?’s. When something didn’t go as planned I saw it as a negative and never moved past it.

In my case, I think life was determined to teach me to leave that negative thinking behind and live in the moment/trust that although life wasn’t exactly going the way I planned, there was a method behind all the madness. Unfortunately It has taken many twists and turns for me to open my eyes to the idea (which I hope one day I’ll be courageous enough to share with you all), but I now get it. Everything happens for a reason.

I think that often we want to be the best that we can be, so we over plan. Amidst our life planning we forget that we can only plan so much. Life too wants the best for us, and we have to learn to let her lead. Whether life takes us through good times or some unpleasant journeys she always has  method to her madness.

To this day, I still find that I am learning to let life guide me through this journey. I don’t know that I will ever completely understand it, but what I have learned is that having faith that everything happens for a reason has reduced stress in my life and  made me a happier person.

I encourage you to take a moment today and let life lead the way. 🙂

**Cristy**

Foto Friday: Happy Heads

Story behind foto: As I mentioned last week, I was in San Diego during Labor Day weekend to celebrate my birthday with friends. On Saturday morning, we decided to get a massage, which is starting to become a tradition when we get together. As we drove around the Gaslamp Quarter, we found a little massage spot called Happy Head Foot Reflexology and Massage… Yeah, we thought the same thing. At first, we were a little skeptical, but we decided to be adventurous and try it. We were so amazed by the service, Lynn, the receptionist, was so nice and helpful, and our one hour Asian Style massage was unlike anything we have ever tried. We were definitely “Happy Heads” after our massage.

After our massage, we got to know Lynn a bit and she clued us in on how the name came about and gave us a little “tour” of the place. What added to our experience were all the art pieces throughout the gallery/massage studio. Lynn, as self-proclaimed “massage addict” with a marketing/interior design/retail background decided to put it all together and create this one of a kind place. She now has two locations. If you happen to be in San Diego, go check it out and say “hello” to Lynn.

~CAT~

Friendspiration 02

I never really understood how some people could only have one or two very close friends. See, I have never had a hard time making friends and for the most part of my life I can say I’ve always been blessed with a large group of close friends (BFF’s). When people would tell me, “just wait and see, the older you get the smaller your circle of friends will become.” I always replied with, “No I don’t think that will ever be the case for me. I am very close to my friends. I can’t see us ever growing apart.”

What I should have said was, never, say never. While I still maintain very close relationships with some of my BFF’s, some even from childhood, I can’t help but to reflect on the fact that as I get older that group of friends is getting smaller.

At times it is disappointing to see how friendships dissolve, but it makes those friendships that still exist a bit stronger and valuable. There comes a point where you realize who sincerely cares about you and has your best interest at heart and vise versa. People who demand your friendship but don’t reciprocate it don’t really add much to your life.

I hate to compare friendships to shoes but I’m going to do it anyway…A good friend is like a comfy chancla. Always comfortable, no matter the situation while flaky friends are like $20 heels, when you first get them you think ooh what a sweet deal, but when the heel breaks on you in the middle of the dance floor on a Friday night, you think, aaaaaaah…my faithful and comfy chanclas would never leave me stranded on the dance floor.

So I guess what I’m trying to say is, while my group of friends is smaller, I appreciate them dearly. See, when it comes to BFF’s it’s the quality that matters not the quantity.

**Cristy**